This past weekend we celebrated Sophie’s 3rd birthday and yes, it was elaborate. In truth, I know I can get, um, well, a little overboard but I can explain.
Sophie’s birthday is technically the end of this month but as a “long weekend baby”, we’ll probably always celebrate it a week early with our family and friends. On her actual birthday we reserve the day for just the three of us as a family unit.
Sophie, like all other children, is a miracle. But to me, her day is very symbolic and extra special. Living with NMO (neuromyelitis optica) I was told having children was not going to happen. They said it was dangerous to come off my meds, reckless, not enough medical evidence, etc. To Mike and I, that was just more heartbreaking news. But I worked hard to get back to an acceptable health. And I did my homework about IVF. Then I begged and pleaded my team of doctors until they agreed, with significant warning, to let us give it a try.
And then there was the entire IVF process…that’s a whole other post.
But in the end, we beat this disease just a little bit because we have her, our miracle baby. And every year on her birthday I’m reminded of how grateful I was and still am for all the love and support from our family and friends and doctors and medical advancements, and (I can go on and on – this is such a long list).
And my heart breaks just a little bit more when I think of how NMO might rob me of time with her. This month has been tough knowing we’ve lost one of our big advocates, Candace Coffee, and how her twins are just a year younger than my little girl.
So yes, I throw a party. I take months ahead of time to plan intricate details around her theme (this year it was “Princess”) and we celebrate. For this I won’t apologize, be judged or scolded.
And as I watched her have an amazing time with her new school friends, dance class friends and family friends, my heart is filled with more happiness than I could have ever imagined. We beat NMO a little bit yesterday, today and if I have anything to say about it, for a really long time tomorrow too.
The royal princess table setting for 12 kids.
It wouldn’t be a party without a royal snack table.